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Sleep
positions speak volumes about your romantic relationship
If
you and your partner cuddle up in 'spoons position all night
or have your backs facing each other in bed, then this might
just be more than mere sleeping positions
According
to Dr Pam Spurr, the body language in bed could be telling
indicator of your emotional status in a relationship.
The
Sun explained some of the main sleep positions and their
meaning.
The
Spoons (him behind)
You
both lie on your sides, him facing your back.,
The
meaning: He is protective of you and quite traditional. He
can get sensual reaching around and caressing every part of
you. Be ware if you never kiss/cuddle in the sleep position
as this may become too platonic.
The
Spoons (her behind)
You
both lie on your sides, you facing his back.
The
meaning: You are very nurturing and the backbone of the
relationship. He is not afraid of letting go of
responsibilities and you being his emotional anchor. Fab as
long as your needs are not neglected.
Poles
Apart
Your
backs face each other with a wide gap between them.
The
meaning: The intimacy is breaking down and you may be too
independent of each other. If being independent suits you
both then that's okay, as long as you say a warm good night.
But be careful you are not using this position to shut each
other out.
Pushed
Out
One
sprawls in a starfish shape the other faces away, clinging
to the edge of the bed.
The
meaning: The sprawler dominates your relationship and they
might be selfish and unaware of their partner's needs. If
you are the one pushed out, ensure you start asserting your
self during the day.
Need
You
One
lies on their back the other is cradled in the crook of
their arm cuddled up to them.
The
meaning: The partner on their back provides emotional
strength and he is happy offering emotional support to the
other partner who is more needy.
Mixed
Messages
One
lies tucked up in the foetal position, facing the other who
is flat on his/her back.
The
meaning: The one in the foetal position needs comfort but
feels unable to express their partner, who is oblivious to
their needs. Identify what is going wrong and starts talking
about it.
Submissive
One
lies on their stomach, their fingertips reaching to their
partner who lies on their back or side.
The
meaning: The partner reaching out is submissive in the
relationship - the power lies with the other partner.
Pure
Lust
Very
cuddled up, with your legs entwined and the erogenous zones
snuggled into each other.
The
meaning: There is loads of passion and sensuality, and you
are probably in the honeymoon phase.
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Pasta
in Nasta ......by
Rita Rao (UAE)
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You too can do it
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As
she stood in front of her 5th grade class
on the very first day of school, she told
the children an untruth. Like most
teachers, she looked at her students and
said that she loved them all the same.
However, that was impossible, because
there in the front row, slumped in his
seat, was a little boy named Teddy
Stoddard.
Mrs.
Thompson had watched Teddy the year before
and noticed that he did not play well with
the other children, that his clothes were
messy and that he constantly needed a
bath. In addition, Teddy could be
unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs.
Thompson would actually take delight in
marking his papers with a broad red pen,
making bold X's and then putting a big 'F'
at the top of his papers.
At
the school where Mrs Thompson taught, she
was required to review each child's past
records and she put Teddy's off until
last. However, when she reviewed his file,
she was in for a surprise.
Teddy's
first grade teacher wrote, 'Teddy is a
bright child with a ready laugh. He does
his work neatly and has good manners....
he is a joy to be around..'
His
second grade teacher wrote, 'Teddy is an
excellent student, well liked by his
classmates, but he is troubled because his
mother has a terminal illness and life at
home must be a struggle.'
His
third grade teacher wrote, 'His mother's
death has been hard on him. He tries to do
his best, but his father doesn't show much
interest, and his home life will soon
affect him if some steps aren't taken.'
Teddy's
fourth grade teacher wrote, 'Teddy is
withdrawn and doesn't show much interest
in school. He doesn't have many friends
and he sometimes sleeps in class..'
By
now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem
and she was ashamed of herself.. She felt
even worse when her students brought her
Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful
ribbons and bright paper, except for
Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped
in the heavy, brown paper that he got from
a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to
open it in the middle of the other
presents. Some of the children started to
laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet
with some of the stones missing, and a
bottle that was one-quarter full of
perfume. But she stifled the children's
laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the
bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing
some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy
Stoddard stayed after school that day just
long enough to say, 'Mrs. Thompson, today
you smelled just like my Mom used to.'
After
the children left, she cried for at least
an hour. On that very day, she quit
teaching reading, writing and arithmetic.
Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs.
Thompson paid particular attention to
Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind
seemed to come alive. The more she
encouraged him, the faster he responded.
By the end of the year, Teddy had become
one of the smartest children in the class
and, despite her lie that she would love
all the children the same, Teddy became
one of her 'teacher's pets..'
A
year later, she found a note under her
door, from Teddy, telling her that she was
the best teacher he ever had in his whole
life.
Six
years went by before she got another note
from Teddy.. He then wrote that he had
finished high school, third in his class,
and she was still the best teacher he ever
had in life.
Four
years after that, she got another letter,
saying that while things had been tough at
times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck
with it, and would soon graduate from
college with the highest of honors. He
assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still
the best and favorite teacher he had ever
had in his whole life.
Then
four more years passed and yet another
letter came. This time he explained that
after he got his bachelor's degree, he
decided to go a little further. The letter
explained that she was still the best and
favorite teacher he ever had. But now his
name was a little longer.... The letter
was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.
The
story does not end there. You see, there
was yet another letter that spring. Teddy
said he had met this girl and was going to
be married. He explained that his father
had died a couple of years ago and he was
wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to
sit at the wedding in the place that was
usually reserved for the mother of the
groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And
guess what? She wore that bracelet, the
one with several rhinestones missing.
Moreover, she made sure she was wearing
the perfume that Teddy remembered his
mother wearing on their last Christmas
together.
They
hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard
whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, 'Thank
you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me.
Thank you so much for making me feel
important and showing me that I could make
a difference.'
Mrs.
Thompson, with tears in her eyes,
whispered back. She said, 'Teddy, you have
it all wrong. You were the one who taught
me that I could make a difference. I
didn't know how to teach until I met you.'
(For
you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the
Dr. at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that
has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)
Warm
someone’s heart today. . . pass this
along. I love this story so very much, I
cry every time I read it. Just try to make
a difference in someones' life today?
tomorrow? just 'do it'.
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Send
your response to Rita Rao, Pasta in Nasta at:
akn929@yahoo.com
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Men
are obsessed with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat
London
: Expert Dr Louann Brizendine has dived a man's mind and
confirmed what most women long suspected: men are obsessed
with sex, hide their emotions, and cheat. According to
Brizendine, testosterone causes the "man trance,"
where blokes have to stare at Boobs, reports a news
daily.
She
says: " The best advice I have for women is make peace
with the male brain. Let men be men". Some of the other
findings in the expert's new book Male brain: A
Breakthrough
Understanding of How Men and Boys think are:
1
Men really are sex-crazed The brain's art linked to sexual
pursuit is two-and-a-half times larger than in males than
females.
2.They're
programmed to perv
The
testosterone drives what Louann calls the "man
trance" - a glazed-eye stare at breasts. She says:
"I wish I could say that men can stop themselves from
entering this trance. But the truth is, they
can't".
3.
Men want more partners According to the book, men want an
everage of 14 sexual partners in their lifetime. Women want
one or two.
Louann
says:" It's postcoital narcolespy. During orgasm, males
release a huge amount of oxytocin in their brains, and it is
very sedating. It's not that he doesn't love you."
4.
Men lie more about sex
Biologically
speaking, men are more comfortable lying to the opposite
sex.
5.
Foreplay round the clock
In
case of women, foreplay is everything that happens in
the 24 hours before intercourse. For men it's what happens
three minutes before entry.
Louann
says:' The male brain's initial emotional reaction can be
stronger than the female. But within 2.5 seconds his face
changes to hide the emotion, or even reverse it." The
expert doesn't reckon her book justifies bad behaviour. She
says:" This is not giving men an excuse to rape and
pillage. but men do have to give voice to their biological
predisposition and have it come in to the dialogue."
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A
State University of New York study found that woman
who had regular sex were significantly less depressed
than those who didn't.
People
who have regular sex, handle stress better. Orgasms
relax even the most anxious lover and pave the way for
better sleep.
A
British study of 1000 men found that those who had
atleast two orgasms per week had half the death rate
of those who climaxed less than once a month.
Sex
can make you look younger, according to
neuropsychologist David Weeks, who found that men and
women who reported having sex an average of four times
per week looked approximately 10 years younger than
they really were.
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Does
size matter at all?
More
Than Just an Erectile Problem
Men,
you may not realize it, but you've got a canary in your
pants. Doctors now recognize that the penis functions as an
exquisitely simple gauge for detecting impending heart
problems. That's one reason flagging erections, which affect
more than a third of men over the age of 40, should not be
ignored. Another: Drugs like Viagra, which celebrated its
10th birthday this year, are just one set-among several-of
time-tested treatments.
A
decade into the medical revolution that turned erectile
dysfuction into a household term, a shift in thinking is
afoot. There's ample evidence that Viagra, Levitra, and
Cialis can revitalize a man's sex life; in trails, Viagra
enabled 83 percent of men struggling with ED to have
intercourse at least once compared with 45 percent of those
taking a placebo. Still, other drugs may be necessary to
deal with vascular disease or diabetes, which often
accompany ED. And long-impotent men may want to consider
options like penile implants because as vascular
disease progresses, the usefulness of Viagra and its kin
often wanes.
ED
heralds heart trouble because arteries in the penis have
about a quarter the diameter of coronary arteries. When
plaque builds up, the slender vessels reach the strangling
point first-but cardiac problems are often just around the
corner. "In many cases, erectile dysfunction is quite
literally vascular disease under the belt", says Randy
Fagin, a urologist and director of the prostate center of
Austin. Symptoms often occur three to four years before
cardiac problems, such as chest pain or heart attack, begin
to crop up, says Robert Kloner, a cardiologist at the
University of Southern California. New guidelines in 2006
advised physicians to consider a man with erectile
dysfunction and no cardiac symptoms a cardiac patient until
proved otherwise.
In
addition to any treatment they may need for vascular
disease, men have options for fixing ED. Eating better and
exercising regularly can not only stave off plaque buildup
in arteries but reverse it, research has shown. A 2004 study
of obese men with erectile dysfunction found, for example,
that erectile function improved in a third of men who
adopted healthful behaviors and lost about 30 pounds.
Among
medical options, doctors say, one of the best is to inject a
medication such as alprostadil into the base or side of the
penis. A quick, relatively painless shot, which can produce
an erection within 10 minutes, cost about twice as much as a
dose of an oral ED drug.
(Read
the remaining part of this article, next week)
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 10 Rules for becoming a better kisser
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Please do not lick your lips as you
go in for the kiss. This is equivalent to a singer
clear his/her throat before a performance.
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Your mouth is not a jack
a-in-the-box. Do you stick your tongue out every time
you open your mouth to kiss? Abstain from any such
impulse if you want to get anywhere beyond the first
kiss.
-
When in doubt, follow this order of
operations during any given kissing session: 1) Closed
mouth 2) Opened mouth, 3) Opened mouth, just the hint
of tongue. 4) Use of tongue whether that four-step
process takes a half hour or 30 seconds to complete,
the build- up is infinitely preferable to sticking out
your tongue.
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Do not open your mouth so wide that
your partner reels back in fear, thinking, “Is
he/she about to kiss me or chew my head up?”
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Do not make a beeline for the
genitals the moment you lock your lips with your
partner’s, especially during a first kiss or during
kisses early on in the dating process. And
remember, if you have not gone beyond hand-holding
until this point, romance should take priority over
mad lust, where you both savour the moment and focus
only on the kissing.
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This
one is very important: Do
not ever try to sneak up on your partner (especially
if
you both have never kissed before) to plant a surprise
kiss on them so they cannot
be quick enough to kiss you back – it is rude. And
desperate.
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Likewise, grabbing someone’s face
is romantic so long as you are not holding their head to keep them from pulling away. Putting
someone in headlock so they cannot escape your kiss is
not only rude, it is criminal.
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If your partner pulls away, the
ladylike or gentlemanly kisser refrains from getting
mad or pouty. Even if you are dying of humiliation or
crying on the inside, maintain a cool and calm
exterior. You can sulk later, and in private.
-
When you come up for air and decide
to head for their earlobe, proceed with caution and
restraint. Many despise ear-play altogether. So go
slowly, breathe softly, blow gently, and use your
tongue sparingly. And if your partner pulls away, do
not keep revisiting the area in an effort to convert
them.
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If you don’t want your partner to
die of suffocation, brush your teeth and your tongue
often, carry mints with you at all times and keep a
small tube of toothpaste next to your bed for morning
touch-ups so you or your partner don’t have to leave
the warm comforts of bed prematurely.
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To check your Mobile phone's serial number,
key in the following Digits on your phone: *#06#
A 15 digit code will appear on the screen. This number is unique to your handset.
Write it down and keep it somewhere safe.
Should your phone get stolen, you can phone your service provider and give them this code.
They will then be able to block your handset so even if the thief changes the Sim card your
phone will be totally useless. You probably won't get your phone back, but at least you know
whoever stole it can't use/sell it either. If everybody did this, there would be no point in
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Pregnancy workout reduces size of baby
According
to a new study, regular moderate-intensity aerobics
exercise leads to a modest reduction in offspring birth
weight without restricting the development of maternal
insulin resistance.
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Exercise
good for male sexual health
Exercise
is not only good for man's heart, but his sexual health as
well, says an Australian study. While other studies have
shown links between erectile dysfunction and depression,
this study shows strong links between a lack of physical
activity and erectile dysfunction and a perception and a
lack of testorterone.
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Pregnancy
women busted
shington:Do you really believe that the
missionary position can increase your chances of getting
pregnant? Well, women trying to conceive are often
surrounded by such questions as there are so many urban
myths and wives tales that make it difficult to know whether
a person is doing the right thing, the wrong thing or simply
wasting time.
Now,
Heidi Murkoff has just released the latest in her popular
What to Expect series, titled What to Expect Before You're
Expecting. The book is aimed at women who are trying to
conceive, reports the Sydney Morning Herald.
Here
she sorts out some common pregnancy myths:
1.The
longer it takes you to get pregnant, the more likely you are
to conceive a boy. Partly true - Women who take longer to
conceive are more likely to have thicker cervical mucus, and
boy sperm swim better in thicker mucus.
2.
A woman in her early 20s not using birth control has a 50
per cent chance of getting pregnant each month.
3.
Saliva is the most fertility friendly lubricant to use when
you're trying to conceive. False - Saliva is a sperm killer.
In fact, most lubricants and massage oils are fertility
unfriendly, so best to go without when you're baby
making.
4.
Boxers are a better bet than brieifs when you're trying to
conceive.
True-Though
in most cases, not true enough to make a big difference.
Sperm prodction can be affected by overheating, whether it's
in s hot tub, a sauna, spandex nike shorts, or a pair of
tighty-whites.
5.
Laptops can impair sperm production. True- The heat is on when you use a laptop on your lap, and heat is
not a friend of male fertility. To keep the family jewells
in top family-generating shape, treat your laptop like a
desktop. The same may hold true for mobile phones so keep
them out of your pocket.
6. The average couple conceives within 3 months of trying. False -
Conception doesn't typically happen overnight, even after a
really hot night. Egg and sperm may meet up on your first
try, of course, but it actually takes take the average
couple who doesn't have any fertility issues between 6 and
12 months of active efforts before mission is accomplished.
7. The more sex you have during your fertility days, the more likely you
are to conceive.
True, to a point- Until recently, an every-other-day sex strategy was
recommended but the latest research suggests that more is
more after all. For a man who has a normal sperm count,
having sex every day during his partner's fertile days is
most likely to result in conception. More than once a day,
on the other hand, is less. The more performances in a day,
the less packed they're likely to be with sperm. A guy needs
to build up his troops between deployments. In fact, a man
with a lower sperm count may want to wait a day in between
ejaculations to bild up his members.
8. After an egg is released, it can be fertilised for up to two
days.
False- While sperm can hang out and wait for their date for three days or
more, an egg has only a 12 to 24 hour shelf life. So sperm
have to catch it while they can
9. Position matters.
False, mostly-Healthy sperm are excellent swimmers and pretty much any
position can get you pregnant. But if you'd like to give the
little guys a head start, try man on top, with the woman's
hips slightly elevated.
10. If you want to get pregnant, order up some oysters.
True-Believe
it or not, the cliche holds up under scientific scrunity.
Oysters are the food chain's most concentrated source of
zinc, one of nature's most fertile minerals. It's also a
libido booster. The benefits extend to both sexes, so share
a dozen.
11.
Cough medicine can help you get pregnant rue - Expectorants loosen up mucus in your chest but they're also able
to loosen up cervical mucus, and looser cervical
mucas is easier for sperm to hitch a ride in. However, read
the ingredients carefully. some cough medicines also contain
an antihistamine, and that's an ingredient that dries up
mucus of all varieties, giving sperm a hard time.
12.
Watching a sexy movie can help you get pregnant.
True-
As long as the man in your life is watching it too! Studies
show that men produce more sperm after watching a sexy
movie. And it doesn't have to be X-rated, either. So grab
some popcorn, and then grab each other.
13.
Men don't have a biological clock.
False
- It's clock with a much longer-lasting battery, but it's
still ticking away. While guys can produce viable sperm and
father babies well into their 50 and 60s, older men are more
likely to have dipping testosterone levels and a decrease in
the quantity and quality of sperm.
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Burn
a few calories at the office by taking the steps instead of
the elevator or standing while talking on the phone
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Sexzone............everything
you wanted to know
...... Revathi
Dani |
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Q.
I
am a 26-year-old woman. I got married
recently. When aroused, I love to fondle my
husband's penis and swallow the sperms. Though my
husband enjoys it, but feels it is abnormal. Is it
true or harmful? ....... Rachna, Thane
Q.
I visited my relatives on a holiday. There my aunt's sister too had come for
a short visit. This young
woman had a tendency to change clothes either in my presence or in a such way that I
see her. She
exposed herself a couple of times. No doubt I
felt odd but excited too. However I ignored it but
those images come back to me. Please help?.....
Rajesh S, Thane
A.
Being a young woman she was trying to draw your attention. Possibly she was keen to have a
relationship with you. Its good that you ignored her
advances or else it could have led to complications.
I can understand that you being young those images
of a young woman come back. Just try and forget
about it.
Q.
I
am a 25-year-old married woman. My husband works
abroad and comes down once a year for 2 months.
During that time, we have sex almost trice every day
and the first 2-3 days at least 3-4 times. However
he wants me to be naked all the time. I do it
to keep my husband happy. But I feel bit awkward and
he is having sex daily harmful ? ........ Nikita R,
Dombvili.
A.
Since your husband is away for
a long time he must be deprived of sex and craving
for it just like you. He must be fantacising and
loves to see you naked. As long as both of you are
happy there is no problem to being naked and having sex many
times as you want.
Q.
I am a young girl of 22-years from a small town who
has come to Mumbai to do a course. I stay with my
relatives. One night while going to the toilet I
passed by the bedroom, I heard some sounds. From the
gap of the door I saw my uncle and aunty naked and
having sex. I ran towards my room and felt something
all over my body. Is something wrong with me or am I
sick?.......Pallavi R. Badlapur
A.
No, there is nothing wrong. You seen to have got
aroused and excited. What you saw is two married
adults making love. Later when you get married you
too would do the same. Nothing to feel bad about it.
Presently just forget about it and concentrate on
your course
Q.
We
are a young couple recently married. We both love to
watch porn films and sometimes try to imitate
their style of love making. but most of the
poses are difficult and uncomfortable. Is something
wrong with us or are we not capable of doing
it ? Please help....... Rohan, Cannanore
A.
In porno films, most of what is shown is exaggerated. The close-up of male and female sex
organ is done to attract the viewers like you. To
perform most of the poses you would have to be a
gymnast or an acrobat. See and enjoy it to be
aroused. Don't try to copy it. Do what is
comfortable for both of you and enjoy the married
life.
Q While
travelling by bus to Goa, I was sitting next to a
woman. In the night when the lights were off, she
tried to be cosy and as close to me as possible,
Later her hands were all over and stopped down to
hold my organ. I was aroused. I kissed and hugged
her. Is it harmful. Will I get any disease? ......
Albert P, Malad, Mumbai
A
You are safe since it was only kiss and hug and
nothing beyond. Never entertain stranger because
kissing and hugging may proceed to next step of
intercourse. never get into a physical relationship
unless you know person very well.
ve
Tips for a Healthy Sex Life
Don't
rush it up. Slow down when you feel you are about to
climax, then start all over again to enhance
excitement.
Let
your partner know when they do something that please
you and say, ' I love it when you touch me there or
that way'.
Wear
a negligee that shows some while it hides some, to
arouse and excite your lover.
Experiment
with lots of different positions. Some will feel
fantastic and passion can also be mixed with fun.
Remember
fingers can play magic and the skin is very
sensitive. Soft touch behind the knee, along the
thighs, etc can arouse the person.
Sexual
activity promotes brain function and may contribute
to living a longer life. Older people should focus
on a wide range of physical intimacy, not just
intercourse.
Send
your queries to: Sexzone expert , Revati & email
at : akn929@yahoo.com
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Sex
advice:
My girlfriend never has orgasms from penetrative sex.
- by Suzi Godson
Q:
My 29-year-old girlfriend easily has orgasms from oral sex,
but never from penetrative sex. She seems happy, but it
leaves me feel dissatisfied. She wants to get married soon
but I am worried that we may be incompatible and that there
could be someone better for both of us. Is this something
that can be overcome?
A:
A female orgasms is incredibly elusive. Although most women
can climax perfectly well by themselves, partner sex is more
complicated. In the most comprehensive sex survey yet
carried out in the US, 61 per cent of women reported always
or usually experiencing an orgasm through masturbation, but
only 29 per cent reported always having an orgasm during sex
with a partner. This is mainly explained by the fact that
the clitoris, the most sexually sensitive part of the female
body, is located several centimeters away from the vaginal
opening.
That
biological could overcome quite easily if lack of
communication were not also such a problem. Women (young
women in particular) rarely feel confident to make sexual
demands on a new partner and, because porn movies have
successfully propagated the myth that vigorous thrusting is
all it takes to make a woman climax, consecutive partners
fail to provide meaningful clitoral stimulation and are left
thinking that there is something wrong with them rather than
something with the kind of sex they are having. As women
mature, they develop a better under standing of their own
responses and some realise that they can climax much more
easily through oral sex. Most will have tried to convert the
arousal they experience during oral into penetrative sex,
only to discover that the physical transition kills the
build-up of sensation. Unwilling to delay their partner,
they eventually settle for guaranteed non-penetrative orgasm
over an uncertain penetrative one.
It's
not an unreasonable solution. An orgasm is an orgasm, and
I'm sure your girlfriend doesn't care how she gets there,
but she would be devastated if she knew how it was affecting
you.
If
you can find a way to get this out in open, there are
several practical techniques that could help you resolve the
issue. First, when you have a sex, begin switching between
oral and manual stimulation to get your girlfriend
accustomed to he sensation transition. You can then progress
to penetration. My advice to her would be to concentrate on
the pleasurable feelings. Continuity is vital- if you keep
changing positions she will lose focus, so be patient and
persevere.
Also
she should try going on top, which will allow her to control
the pace. You may also want to try the "coital
alignment technique." It is a revised missionary
position that tilts the pelvis forward. It has been
"designed" to improve a woman's chance of
experiencing orgasm during intercourse.
Female-friendly
positions
1.
The missionary
The
first position is the missionary. It may sound boring and
unadventurous, but this position allows your pubic mound to
rub against her clitoris while you are inside her, which
will help trigger an orgasm. Putting a pillow under her
bottom will also help get the right angle to hit her G-spot.
She can also grind against you and move her hips to greet
you. This position is a standard one and you almost can’t
go wrong with it, but the most important factor in good sex
is communication; if it’s not working, she needs to tell
you it’s not working. Experiment!
2.
Doggy style
This
position is definitely female friendly when done properly,
though there are keys for its success. Many men reach around
to stimulate the clitoris with their fingers, which is
great, but for some reason -- probably due to being
distracted with our own pleasure -- we stop. This is a big
mistake, because when you stop halfway, you effectively halt
her progress. She probably won’t say anything since it is
still very enjoyable; its just not orgasmic.
It can be easier if she stimulates her clitoris, though this
can be a bit unsteady since she will only have one arm to
hold herself up. Talk to her and figure out what suits her
best: you working her clitoris or her. For the less
well-endowed among you, doggy style allows for deeper
penetration, which can be more satisfying for her. It can
also make you orgasm faster, so make sure to slow it down or
take a quick break when you need to -- and be sure to keep
that hand in place.
3.
Her on top No.1
Lie
on your back while she straddles you. This position allows
her to control the angle, speed and pressure of penetration,
while giving her the leverage to stimulate her clitoris by
rubbing it on your pubic bone and lower abdomen. It is
important for the success of this position that the area of
your body that her clitoris is rubbing on is slightly wet,
which makes the motion smooth and slippery. She may not know
this fact, so you may need to take the initiative and wet it
with saliva or lube.
4.
Her on top No. 2
She
will need to be comfortable pleasuring herself to be able to
get off with this one. You lie down on the bed or
floor while she faces your feet and straddles you. This
position gives great G-spot stimulation for her and a great
view for you. She can pleasure her own clitoris (which is a
benefit because she can do it just how she likes) and create
her own rhythm with her hips.
If she is uncomfortable with her body she may not be too
keen on this position as her butt will be on full display,
but give her a ”lights-out” option if she needs it; she
might just find this position tinkles her bells.
5.
On a chair
A
sturdy armless chair (like a dining chair) provides a great
base for a couple of different girl-on-top scenarios. It’s
almost impossible for her clitoris not to rub on your
stomach and pubic area if she is facing you, and she can
manually stimulate her clitoris if she is facing your feet.
The angles are excellent -- she can go as deep as she needs
to and set the pace as she goes.
Hitting
her happy place
Every
woman can have orgasms; it’s just a matter of finding the
right combination of stimulation to get her off. Don’t
forget that she is responsible for her own pleasure and
needs to experiment on her own (and with her man) to find
out what suits her best. Men are not in solely
responsible for providing her with sexual satisfaction,
so if she can’t orgasm, don’t blame the man. Remember
that it takes two to tango and she needs to figure out what
gets her going -- with or without the man’s help. Changing
positions may very well help her, but if it doesn't, he can
try other methods of stimulation, such as having different
or longer foreplay or using sex toys. Whatever you do,
don’t give up.
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For couples,
'perfect moment' of the day will be at 8:44pm
London (ANI): For worked up couples, the
"perfect moment" when they can finally sit down
and relax at the end of the day comes at precisely 8.44pm,
research has found.
The study of 3,000 people found the average couple settles down together
at 8.05pm - but it takes a further 39 minutes to unwind and
forget about the stresses and strains of the working day.
The pressures of long working hours and domestic tasks also mean married
couples are spending less than 75 minutes of quality time
together, according to the study.
Psychologists and counsellors have said that the gruelling work and
domestic schedules of modern life are fuelling high divorce
rates.
Professor Cary Cooper, organisational psychology and health expert at
Lancaster University Management School, said the findings
are not surprising.
"This is normal, I mean it's abnormal, but normal in the our
society, which has the longest working hours in
Europe," the Scotsman quoted Cooper as saying.
"The impact of this on quality of life is poor. When do you fit in
personal, disposable time to focus on your relationship?
"The result is that couples are engaging in tactical talk - such as
who will pick up the kids or who will have the car - and not
emotional talk. This leads to separations, break-ups and
divorce," he added.
The study also shows that there are distinct differences between the ways
men and women wind down after work.
Six in ten women will prepare the evening meal, compared to just a third
of men - and four in ten women then do the dishes or put the
washing on.
Women also take more responsibility for house administration - such as
arranging school dinner money, filling out forms and
checking mail.
Men are more likely to help the children with homework - 17 per cent of
fathers compared to 13 per cent of mothers - because women
are busy with the housework.
Seven in ten women do more around the house than men, and 66 per cent of
men admit they might relax earlier than their partner.
Veronica Hansmann, a counsellor and psychotherapist based in Dunblane,
said working long hours and an unfair division of household
chores can create tensions in relationships.
"It depends on the couple. In many cases household chores are evenly
distributed between couples. What's more important is
communicating," she said.
"It can depend on how you talk about the practical things. It's not
always about what you talk about but how - if you really
communicate with each other or if you talk like
robots," she added.
Hansmann said she advises couples to spend at least one night a week
doing something together. (ANI)
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